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When preparing children for school, teachers often emphasize the importance of social and emotional skills, such as following directions, persisting through challenges, and interacting in a group. These abilities are closely tied to self-control, and children can develop them both at preschool and at home. Here are some simple yet effective ways families can support their preschoolers in learning self-control.
Turn Games Into Opposites
Add a fun twist to familiar games by changing the rules. Try playing "Simon Doesn’t Say" instead of the usual "Simon Says." Explain the new rule: “Do the opposite of what Simon asks. If Simon says, ‘Touch your head,’ you should touch your toes!” Demonstrate the game and keep the directions simple. Take turns being Simon to make it even more engaging.
Practice Patience in Everyday Moments
Teach your child to wait by modeling it in daily situations. If you’re on the phone and your child asks for something (that isn’t urgent), let them know: “I need to finish this call first, then I’ll help you.” This small practice helps children learn to wait their turn and be patient.
Follow Directions Together
Engage in activities that naturally encourage listening and following instructions. Build a model, play "Follow the Leader," or cook together: “I’ll read the recipe aloud, so we both know what to do. Listen carefully, and we’ll follow each step together.” These hands-on experiences make learning self-control fun and rewarding.
Make Waiting Easier with Activities
Help your child understand time by offering engaging ways to wait. Instead of saying, “You have to wait until dinner,” give them something to do: “Grammy and Grampy will be here soon—would you like to draw them a picture while you wait?” Offering a concrete activity makes waiting feel shorter and more manageable.
Tackle a Puzzle Together
Encourage perseverance by working on a slightly challenging puzzle together. Choose one with more pieces than your child is used to and leave it in a space where they can return to it over time. Celebrate the achievement when the last piece is placed!
Grow Something Together
Teach patience through gardening. Plant easy-to-grow marigold seeds in a pot or garden and check on them daily. Watching the tiny sprouts emerge and bloom teaches children the value of waiting and caring for something over time.
By incorporating these activities into everyday life, you’ll help your child develop essential self-control skills—laying a strong foundation for school and beyond!
